🌗 Where nervous system wisdom rewrites the perimenopause playbook—part of The Reckoning Years series.
Your routines stop working.
Your patience evaporates.
Your cycle is a roulette wheel.
Your skin, gut, sleep, and moods all start glitching.
And the thought creeps in:
“Am I falling apart?”
Yes.
And it might be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.
The Cushion Drops First
Midlife doesn’t break you.
It reveals what you’ve been bracing against for years.
When progesterone begins its steady decline, your nervous system loses its cushion. Estrogen spikes erratically on top of that amplify the chaos.
But the story doesn’t end there. That unraveling invites every hidden compensation to light itself up.
Note how progesterone begins its steady decline first—removing a key buffer for the nervous system—while estrogen becomes erratic before settling at a new baseline. This hormonal unraveling is a major driver behind midlife symptoms, but it’s not the whole story. Image provided to Wikimedia by www.learnbodyliteracy.com
Your body once tolerated late nights, skips, stress, and resistance.
Now, those same inputs echo louder.
What your system once hid—it now broadcasts.
Physiology Deep Dive
Progesterone isn’t just a reproductive hormone—it’s the chemical brake pedal for your entire nervous system. It enhances GABA, the neurotransmitter that slows brain chatter and calms tension. When progesterone drops in perimenopause, the buffer disappears. Suddenly your edges feel thinner, your thoughts race faster, and small irritations pierce like daggers.
Estrogen, meanwhile, becomes volatile—surging and dipping without the stable rhythm you once knew. Each spike overstimulates glutamate, the brain’s “on” signal. Each crash leaves you foggy and flat. Add cortisol—already elevated from years of over-functioning—and the entire system runs hot.
And underneath it all? Mitochondria. These energy engines burn less cleanly under inflammation and stress, leaving you depleted before the day even begins. Glucose swings pile on, making your nervous system even more fragile. This biochemical backdrop explains why what once felt manageable now feels impossible: your body’s scaffolding has shifted, and every old habit is suddenly too expensive to carry.
The Disintegration Is the Initiation
Perimenopause doesn’t break you. It reveals what was always unstable.
What you’re experiencing isn’t collapse—it’s feedback.
What you’re losing isn’t control—it’s compensation.
What you’re shedding isn’t identity—it’s expired survival patterning.
The turbulence isn’t your failure.
It’s the system’s primal call to wake up.
What’s Actually Coming Undone
The patterns that held you together are dissolving:
- Override patterns that kept you pushing through every signal.
- Relational dynamics that required you to minimize yourself to keep the peace.
- Mismatched rhythms that ignored your nervous system’s needs.
- Outdated metabolism that could once handle skipped meals, caffeine, and stress.
- Muted intuition that got sidelined for “functionality”.
Midlife pulls the plug on all of it.
A Day in the Life
You wake already tense. Coffee feels less like a ritual and more like a lifeline, but it tips you into jitter instead of clarity. By mid-afternoon, you’ve skipped lunch, your fuse is gone, and you’re snapping at people you care about. You push harder, hoping grit will save the day—but instead of holding you up, the old override pattern cracks. You collapse into bed at night, body buzzing, brain still racing, and wonder how you became someone you don’t recognize.
This isn’t weakness. It’s the scaffolding of compensation finally giving way.
Breakdown = System Audit
If you’re not sleeping? Your system refuses to subsidize running on fumes.
If your gut flares? Your enteric nervous system is renegotiating boundaries.
If noise overwhelms? Clarity is sharpening—all the static can’t hide it any longer.
The mess isn’t dysfunction.
It’s diagnostic.
🌟Through the VCC Lens
🌱 Regulate
Before you interpret the message, you need baseline safety.
- Bright morning light tells the brain day is real again.
- Meals on time teach your fuel system it can trust you.
- Breath, rest breaks, unbracing throughout the day signal: “We are not in crisis.”
These aren’t “extra tasks.” They rebuild the scaffolding your system now needs.
🌀 Rewire
Once safety becomes reliable, the system can heal.
- Clear estrogen pathways so recirculation doesn’t create feedback loops.
- Support mitochondria, because hormone receptors need energy to function.
- Train your nervous system to release small bracing responses before they spiral.
Think of rewiring as upgrading your internal signal system—and removing the noise.
🔥 Reclaim
You’ve carried so many things out of habit, survival, or fear.
Now, you can let your body rearrange itself according to truth, not obligation.
You’re not collapsing. You’re shedding scaffolds that were never sustainable.
✨ Resonate
There’s a stage beyond collapse and correction—
where rhythm feels anchored, not reactive.
Your output aligns with your truth.
Sensitivity becomes map, not mask.
You emerge not smaller, but clearer.
🪶Micropractice: Collapse Without Panic
Lie on your back with feet propped (bed or couch).
One hand on chest, one on belly.
Breathe in gently through the nose.
Exhale with a soft sigh. Let your body melt.
Say silently or aloud:
“This isn’t collapse. This is what release feels like.”
Stay for 60 seconds. Let yourself fall apart on purpose.
Then notice what remains.
TL;DR
You’re not falling apart.
You’re falling through the brittle layers of coping that were never sustainable.
This isn’t the start of decline.
It’s the beginning of clarity.
When you stop bracing, you begin to rebuild—not from pressure, but from truth.
Your siren isn’t random—it’s a roadmap.
I’ll help you read the signals and reclaim your capacity.
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