Sometimes a woman has a powerful session with me—one that cracks something open. She sees the pattern. She feels the shift. Her system exhales.
But then… she disappears.
She starts to ghost herself.
That’s the pattern I call, “Stop ghosting yourself.”
This isn’t flakiness. It’s patterning.
That disappearing act? It’s not a flake move—it’s a nervous system flinch.
And it happens right when you’re closest to change.
Because power doesn’t just arrive—it triggers everything that’s ever been wired to reject it.
When I say “claim your power,” I don’t mean take up space like a Wall Street bro at a networking lunch. I mean: stop ghosting yourself when the offer arrives.
Power doesn’t always knock.
Sometimes it shows up quietly—an opening, a moment, an invitation—and you pretend you didn’t see it.
Not because you don’t want it.
Not because you’re weak.
But because your nervous system has been trained to scan for fallout before desire even finishes forming.
By the time power finally lands, your body is already bracing for backlash.
You don’t say yes—not because you can’t—but because you’re calculating the risk:
- Will someone be upset?
- Will I seem greedy?
- Will this disrupt the fragile peace?
Meanwhile, men with even a flicker of power will take up space like it’s owed to them—loud, unapologetic, and unaware there’s even a calculation to be made.
She’s not ghosting me. She’s ghosting herself—before she even realizes the offer was hers to take.
This is what “Reclaim” looks like.
It’s not aggression. It’s re-entry.
It’s showing up on your own behalf—not after the room is clear, the kids are fed, or the fallout is forecast—but because you’ve decided it’s time.
And if you can’t hold that yet—that’s not failure. That’s capacity work.
That’s what I’m here for.
It’s time to stop ghosting yourself—and start listening to what your nervous system’s been trying to say all along.
Book a Vital Signal Check and let’s decode what your nervous system’s really trying to say.